Posts Tagged ‘closet

16
Jun
08

Define Yourself Above the Waist: A Primer for Coming Out

I know a lot of people struggle with ‘the closet’. I know that coming out can be a very big deal, and certainly, coming out in a small town is very different than coming out in a major metropolitan area, where the LGBT help make the city tick, but a lot of these blogs are written by men in NYC, LA, Chicago, Miami, where we gays aren’t a novelty. Just the same, the writers act as if they’re the first homo on Earth, and nobody else could possibly understand how difficult it is for them. Bullshit. We’ve all done it.

I’d like to offer some unsolicited coaching.

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06
Jun
08

I am happily aberrant.

I was standing at the urinal today, when a funny thought crossed my mind: I sleep with, and am married to a man.

I know, I know. Obvious. Stupid even.

If the most important, innate desire of an animal is to reproduce itself, I’m putting my goo in the wrong places – every chance I get. A lot of people have a problem with that, including the first girl I put my goo in. I cast her out of my life because she thinks God is an angry thug, but I digress.

Nonetheless, she thinks I’m a perversion, a defective, mis-wired human being, whose most basic drive is flawed. Except I’m not. I know exactly where to put my goo if I wish to reproduce, and the blessing is that if and when I do it, I’ll be doing it purposefully. After all, reproduction is not love, and love is not reproduction, even though there are many handy examples of people who believe the words are interchangeable. Continue reading ‘I am happily aberrant.’

23
Apr
08

One Way YouTube Beats XTube: Lots of Guys Kissing

You can find just about anything on XTube: every combination, every kink, every fluid, but what you don’t find a lot of is plain, old kissing. This reminds me of when I was a kid and the days of phone sex lines, before the boom of the Internet, where young, closeted guys like I was, could figure themselves out on the DL, safely. I listened to the phone sex lines first, scared to speak and actually connect with a stranger, and hanging up almost immediately, or getting off before I’d even gotten started or uttered a word. Continue reading ‘One Way YouTube Beats XTube: Lots of Guys Kissing’

16
Apr
08

Coming Out

Major love goes out to Luke MacFarlane, talented actor in Brothers & Sisters, (and allegedly Wentworth Miller‘s boyfriend); and Azariah Southworth, host of The Remix, a popular Christian youth show, for making their separate coming out announcements today. Well done, guys. You’re hot.

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13
Mar
08

Be a Real Champion

baseballs.jpgI read the blog of a closeted, aspiring pro athlete who “dates” another closeted guy, struggles with his identity, and screws women to keep up appearances with his team mates.

It’s the reason I read him. It’s the reason we like books, movies, and television. We want to see the conflict, and how the characters resolve it and emerge victorious. Plus, I’ve been there myself. I get it. So he asks his readers for questions, which are mostly easy pitches about not getting wood in the shower and how he manages between visits with his beau, but when a question like – Continue reading ‘Be a Real Champion’

07
Dec
07

Why Coming Out Should Be No Big Deal. Really.

I’d like to see Larry Craig come honestly, definitively clean about his sexual orientation, but really it’s none of my business. Three people need to worry about what Larry Craig is doing with his cock: Larry Craig, Mrs. Craig, and whomever’s immediately present when he’s got it out and ready for business. The rest of us just need to butt out.

Chad, a dear, departed friend of mine once said, “My cock is my fate.” It’s a powerful statement (especially when you consider that he died of AIDS). Apply this to anyone whose sexuality is in question: Tom Cruise, Larry Craig, some friend, or even yourself.

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