Posts Tagged ‘advice

01
Oct
08

same great stuff, slightly different location

Dear readers,
Thanks to your dedication to Lovesick Billy, the site is growing and evolving, and there are some exciting new developments just around the corner.

If you’ve bookmarked lovesickbilly.wordpress.com, it’s time to update your bookmark to the direct URL, lovesickbilly.com.  If you’ve been using the direct URL, nothing changes.  Likewise, email for me is now bronson@lovesickbilly.com.  The look and feel is familiar, the cowboys are going to get even hotter, and improved searching helps you find all of the content more easily.

Thanks again for the love.  See you at the new site.

Love,

Bronson

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27
Sep
08

12 Gay Men to Run From

I’m unabashedly taking a cue from fellow lovesite, Tango, and their 10 Men to Run From – Not After, because the man-on-man dating landscape is just as treacherous, and filled with traps.  If you like to date just to date, and screw, consider this a walk down memory lane, and congrats.  You’re probably better at the delineation between tricks and boyfriends than I ever was.  If you date with an eye to commitment, monogamy, and a Crate and Barrel registry, take heed.  Here’s a list of whom not to do, based on my own experiences.

  1. The Closeted: Apologies in advance, but dating a closeted man is the funny uncle to dating a married man.  It even feels pretty much the same, especially around the holidays, no matter how good and kind he is, or how he tries to make it seem otherwise.  (See also 2, and 3.)  Come out boys, it’s 2008. Continue reading ’12 Gay Men to Run From’
07
Sep
08

From One *Former* Victim of Molestation to Another

In March, I wrote a post called “Pedophilia May Have Physical Causes“, and received the following comment:

I too was molested by my step father and the repercussions that it had created has not been a pretty picture. For the most part I function in society. I have been labeled hypo-manic depressive with a slight personality disorder…  I wonder why. My mother denied the abuse and for that she has been forever cut out of my life. The next time that I want to see them both is at their funerals. It has been many years and the hate and anger will not go away and it affects me on a daily basis. Do you have any advice? The experience has only led to worse things in my life (being raped 2 times) due to all the drinking to kill the pain. I have since stopped that all together… I really don’t want to go for a third time. I have tried counseling and well, it has gotten me nowhere. – Dexx36

This comment deserves more than just another one in return.  First, thanks to everyone who commented.  Sometimes the hardest declaration you can make is the one you alone can hear.

Here’s what has worked for me, Dexx: meds, therapy, the support of friends and family, and resolution, not necessarily in that order.  Continue reading ‘From One *Former* Victim of Molestation to Another’

19
Jul
08

10 Things I Should Have Been Taught in High School

  1. Fools usually want to be fooled.
  2. The road to hell is paved with credit cards.
  3. Exercise and flossing are a pain in the ass, but they beat obesity and food through a straw.
  4. Go to college. Period. It makes up for the shitty education you got in grade school, and besides, you’re not as grown-up as you think you are.
  5. It’s up to you, and not your parents, what you major in, compete in, and put your dick in.
  6. Trust your instincts, and hone them with the mistakes you make by not trusting them. Continue reading ’10 Things I Should Have Been Taught in High School’
22
Feb
08

Inside The Polyandrous Relationship

I’VE WRITTEN ABOUT VARIOUS KINDS OF RELATIONSHIPS HERE, including the polyandrous. I wanted to get the real scoop on this situation, so I went to my friend TJ, who has successfully navigated polyandrous relationships. He offered to share his insights here. I definitely had some misconceptions that he’s dispelled – like for starters, it’s not a three-way. Thanks, TJ! —Lovesick Billy

Continue reading ‘Inside The Polyandrous Relationship’

05
Feb
08

How Smart Men Have Sex

  • wrists4.jpgTurn your cell phone off. No matter how much you love them, a call from your parent or ex will distract you.
  • Light candles, but keep them away from the video head cleaner.
  • With a stranger, get the STD/Status question out of the way. Be straightforward, matter of fact, and honest. Even a ‘hey, I don’t really know’ beats silence, and everyone deserves to know what everyone’s getting themselves into.
  • If you like music playing, set up an appropriate playlist long enough to outrun the fun, without obviously repeating. If you’re really, really good, your playlist will have an arc. Sam has elevated this to an art form. Balance the sound with the sound from the porn.
  • Lube. If you like lube and you’re having fun, you’ll be pouring it on like you’re in a ranch dressing commercial, and 16 fluid ounces goes quick. Continue reading ‘How Smart Men Have Sex’



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