I’m glad to see that the Huffington Post has loosened its collar a little bit, covering stuff other than politics. They push the limits a bit with some of the entertainment/gossip fluff, but their pop sociology beat is pretty impressive.
I don’t know if everyone is taking their cues from Lovesick Billy (kidding, of course), but suddenly there’s lots of chatter about monogamy, with the for and against voices coming out in strength.
Check out this Google search.
Scarlett Johannsen’s comments are idiotic, but hey, people are talking about where they get their itch scratched with a transparency that is unprecedented. Perhaps the Bush administration hasn’t banished all of America back to a Puritanical age after all.
I’ll be honest, I’ve tried it all kinds of ways, and without any judgments, I’ll conclude that for us, this morning’s Notes from the Universe says it better than I can:
If you ask me, Bronson, I’d say the main thing to keeping the main thing the main thing, is reminding yourself as often as you can of where the most joy will come from.
Ain’t no thing -
The Universe
This reminds me of the following passage:
An African proverb states, “Before you get married,
keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one
eye. If you love your mate and want the relationship to
grow and evolve, you’ve got to learn to close one eye
and not let every little thing bother you. You and
your mate have many different expectations, emotional
needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You
are two unique individuals who have decided to share a
life together.
Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for
each other? Do you bring out the best of each other?
Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or
do you compete, compare, and control? What do you
bring to the relationship? Do you bring past
relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, and past
pain?
Question: What keeps a relationship strong? Answer:
Communication, intimacy (not sex), trust, a sense of
humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway time
without business or children, and daily exchanges (a
meal, a shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a
note, sharing common goals and interests). Leave a
nice message on their voice mail or send a nice email.
Growth is important. Grow together, not away from each
other, giving each other space to grow without feeling
insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interest.
You can’t always be together.
Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of
commitment. Don’t try to control one another. Learn
each others family situation. Respect his or her
parents regardless. Don’t put pressure on each other
for material goods. Remember for richer or for poorer.
If these qualities are missing, the relationship will
erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect,
dishonesty, and pain will replace the passion.”
Here’s something interesting over on my blog: